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The coach: ‘How do I manage a tricky colleague?’

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Another good way to give feedback to strong-minded people is to report the affect on others. So, to take a simple example, if you have a colleague who others say is too noisy, instead of saying ‘others have complained that you talk too loudly’ (immediately confrontational and opening up the discussion of ‘who’?), you could frame this same issue more obliquely: ‘It is great you are such a spirited person, many people love having your strong character in the office. However, you’ll know others aren’t nearly as outgoing as you, and I imagine they might find it harder to assert themselves. You’ll recognise we are all different, and this office benefits from all types of character. So it would be great if you could have a thought to them when you are in the open-plan space as they may not need or want to hear you.’ What if the 'strong minded' are the one(s) in charge? Definitely time to move on; after speaking your mind in the most kind and concise manner before the inevitable departure to 'pastures sane'...Possibly abroad, to more mature cultures beyond the more internecine UK work environment? Where is the hinted at and fabled pluralism in the workplace suggested in this piece, beyond the UK perhaps? What does the 'spirited' word precisely mean? A form of 'possession'? It is more redolent of 17th century theism rather than the 21st, for us currently unfashionable secular but occasionally hedonistic types, less prone to rhetorical fancy and the ascetic new modern puritanism, which some may equate with those planar modernist expanses of 'the spotless white mind' psychological interior? Too Pavlovian perhaps, for for the more cerebral and less conditioned. Never judge a book by its cover; even if the publishers have spent thousands designing it, hoping for conditioned responses? They have come to take me away ha ha... A sense of humour is often the thing that helps in most work situations, but due to current economic restraints is now no laughing matter...?

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6 June, 2017

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