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The coach: ‘I was about to change jobs, now I'm getting cold feet’

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AJ careers expert Matthew Turner advises an architect who’s been approached with a job offer, but isn’t sure they want to move

I am in advanced discussion with another employer who approached me with a job offer. They are offering a salary increase, but I am increasingly unsure I want to move as my current job is pretty good. I don’t want to upset this new firm as I may want to work for them in the future. What should I do? 

Matthew turner

Matthew turner

Many would think you are in an enviable situation, being pursued. But you should not allow the flattery that comes with such a situation to blinker your decision. 

You should always go into such a conversation with a clear idea of what your acceptable outcome is. If this is hazy, the negotiation will be painful, and your suitor would have the right to feel you were giving them the run around. 

You should undertake a clear pros and cons analysis. Remember salary is not everything; an increase can be relatively modest after tax. What is it that you will get which is different in your new role? Whether it be experience, a new start, or better terms, all should be noted down and thought through carefully. 

Remember, starting a new job is the best time to negotiate the non-financial parts of any package, such as work pattern or, for example, an agreement to take a month off next year to visit your parents in Australia. 

Starting a new job is the best time to negotiate the non-financial parts of any package

But if you have ultimately little intention to move, don’t enter into conversation at this level. You are wasting the prospective employers’ time, and they are likely to remember it.

AJ coach Matthew Turner is an architect and careers consultant who runs the Building on Architecture consultancy. To contact him with your questions, tweet @TheAJcoach or email him in confidence at hello@buildingonarchitecture.com

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