Best advice for any aspiring practitioner is probably 'get the job, get the job, and get the job'. But it helps if your spouse is a rich merchant banker, as Wendy Evans Joseph discovered when she found herself sitting at dinner next to Torsten Wiesel, president of Rockefeller University in New York. The university has funding and campus problems, and Wiesel was hoping to extract an appropriately large donation from Joseph's husband, Peter. When Wiesel mentioned that he wanted a bridge across busy East 63rd Street which bisects his campus, Joseph leapt in with a proposal for a single-support cantilevered structure which probably owes something to her 12 years with IM Pei. A university trustee offered to pay for it, and it's due for completion this month.