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An invitation to wedded bliss

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Congratulations - you are taking the plunge and are getting married.

Of course, there is a lot to think about before the big event but do not forget to tackle that very thorny problem of just who to invite from the office.

If you are in a really small practice, the answer is simple - invite everybody.

However, if there are more than about five of you, you may feel restricted by numbers, or by personal prejudice; there may be some people you simply do not want to have there on your important day.

A word of warning.Once you start being selective, be careful.Your wedding is unlikely to be the highspot of anybody's year but that does not stop them caring passionately about whether or not they are invited.

You have a number of options if you are not going to make lifelong enemies: you could just invite your immediate team - the ones working on the same project/in the same part of the office; alternatively, just invite your friends at work - but they must be real friends, the ones you see at weekends, not just the ones with whom you chat for 30 seconds at the tea point.

Of course, If you feel it is all too much, you could just simply book two weeks leave, disappear quitely and then come back saying: 'Yeah, great holiday - actually, it was our honeymoon.'

You will have to police your phone calls to keep the secret in advance, and you will miss out on the office whip-round.

But though your colleagues will think you weird or mean, or both, you will be the subject of gossip for days - and that, in most offices, is the most generous gift you can give to them.

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